Disappointment and unfulfilled expectations are experienced by every person\u2014young and old alike. \u00a0Though common to all, every disappointment is a seed planted in our minds; each one\u2014either subtly or obviously\u2014bringing emotional pain and laying a foundation for fearful mindsets to take root and grow. The moment we are exposed to risk, this fear-based memory will erect its internal self-protective walls in an attempt to keep us from being hurt or disappointed again.<\/span><\/p>\n

The truth is that we are powerless to control people and circumstances. This is a good thing because we do not want to be controlled by another nor do we want to legislate another\u2019s heart. We do not want obligatory partnerships but rather ardently desire those who will team with us for a united purpose; we want to align with ones who work hard from their own intrinsic motivation and passion, and partner in honesty and integrity.<\/span><\/p>\n

In the same way, we cannot prevent things that are beyond our control. We might be riding the wave of momentum with our beautiful team partnerships, complimentary skills, and shared vision and values, but there are things that hit unexpectedly. Nonetheless, in the middle of these painful <\/span>sucker punches<\/span><\/i> we hold the authority to choose our response.<\/span><\/p>\n

Powerful leaders strategize <\/span>before<\/span><\/i> the disappointment. They determine their course of action so they do not <\/span>emotionally hijack. (see www.drmelodye.com\/emotionalhijacking)<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve learned through the years that I can be blindsided by unexpected situations. I am sure everyone can say, <\/span>\u201cI\u2019ve been there, done that, and bought the t-shirt!\u201d <\/span><\/i>This challenge is common to all. <\/span><\/p>\n

So what is our response? Do we choose to build walls around our heart and reject all relationships? Of course not! That would be self-sabotage limiting trusted partnerships that we need for success! Do we complain and say, \u201cIt\u2019s time to quit,\u201d or \u201cThis vision is not worth all my effort\u201d? Of course not! That would be sabotage to the goals set before us laying waste to all of our and other\u2019s worthy investments.<\/span><\/p>\n

Since <\/span>throwing in the towel<\/span><\/i> or running from relationships is not an option for successful leadership, what is our option? If I could wrap up all the attitudes and actions of powerful self-motivated leadership and <\/span>break it down<\/span><\/i> to one simple principle it would be this: <\/span>\u201cThe Power of Movement.\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n

\u201cWe will never get anywhere sitting in park!\u201d<\/b><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Physical muscles will atrophy without movement as will your self-leadership <\/span>muscles<\/span><\/i>. Atrophy is a weakening, deterioration, and degeneration because of a choice made from the weariness of the mind and fear-provoking emotions. Escape will never bring freedom!<\/span><\/p>\n

There is power\u2014an ability to make an effect\u2014in movement. Movement, by its very definition, is a process that takes us from one place or position to another. Therefore, when the unexpected rudely assaults us or our positioning, we must immediately place guard upon our heart and mind. Pity-parties\u2014 no matter how short\u2014are physically and physiologically destructive and therefore unacceptable. In the midst of the storm of temporary disappointments is the worst time to grow passive or make permanent life decisions.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cPowerful leadership is revealed in the difficult seasons of life.\u201d<\/b><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Utilize your amazing intellect and wisdom (not fearful emotions) to hold steady your course. There is always a solution! Keep your heart open relationally as you allow the trustworthy to speak into your life. \u00a0Reject old, fear-based beliefs based on past experiences. You have weathered the past tempests and increased. This is a new day! Take all the goal-driven motivations you possess and move forward because the best is yet to come!<\/span><\/p>\n

From one leader to another,<\/span><\/p>\n

Dr. Melodye Hilton<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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